Paying it Forward

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I’m going to step away from the books for a day and talk a bit about life. Nothing horrendous happened, as a matter of fact something quite nice.

My daughter has swim school every Tuesday afternoon. My daughter wanted to a KitKat bar after class and I was going to buy it for her. Normally she would have bought it herself, but she left her wallet in the car. My daughter is 13 and earns her allowance by doing chores around the house. Most times she has more money than I do.

I was reaching for my wallet. It wasn’t there. I had left it on my desk. Now, since my wallet has my driver’s license, I am nervous about driving home. It’s not like I speed, but the one time I don’t have my license with me would be the one time I get pulled over for something, anything.

Back to the candy bar.  I tell my daughter that I don’t have my wallet. So, like a girl on a chocolate mission she went to the car to get her wallet. In the meantime, the front desk clerk lets me know that I can charge it to the credit card on file. Of course I could charge it to the card, but that would throw my husband off on doing the finances. I am not about to do that to him. I never use the card if I don’t have to. Plus my daughter has her own money.

The mother of the boy in my daughter’s class said that she would buy it for her. I told her she didn’t have to do that because she was getting her money. She said she didn’t mind because someone had paid something for her earlier in the day. She felt she was paying it forward by doing this. Even though the KitKat was only $1.00, it was the gesture that I appreciated. I thanked her and so did my daughter when she came back with her wallet.

After retrieving my wallet from home we went to Safeway with the Starbucks inside. I bought my usual coffee and my daughter of course bought her pastries. I was the last person in line. We were sitting there waiting for our order when an Air Force Officer came in. I waited to see if she would be buying a for a lot of people or just herself. I didn’t have a lot of money and I just used up my gift card. Luckily she was buying for herself. I let the cashier know that I would be paying for her order. She thanked me and I thanked her for her service.

There is hope out there for people. There is kindness in all the chaos that others bring. Believe in that kindness and that others can and will do good.

By the way, I did not get pulled over. Thank goodness!


Children Make Mistakes…Still

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Since the last time I was here my family has expanded a bit. My oldest daughter (in her mid twenties) has had another child on April 10th, a girl! So I am now the grandmother of two beautiful girls. That is the good news. The bad news, they moved out. Unfortunately, upon moving out our daughter filled out a change of address form, after she was already moved out for months. The problem? She wrote down family rather than individual.

You’re probably wondering, what is wrong with that? She still has our last name. So in filling out the change of address form with family checked, our mail has also been moved. I know what she was thinking in doing this, her family, her girls. The thing is, her girls have a completely different last name than hers. We received a notice from the post office saying that all of our mail is being forwarded to where she lives now, if this was done in error then to contact them. So I did, the next day. I couldn’t do anything as far as having it cancelled since my daughter is the one who filled it out. However, I did place a notice in my mailbox as well as going to my local post office.

Our local post office has been absolutely wonderful. We have been getting mail that had not been forwarded prior to receiving the notice. However, anything that did, is going to my daughter’s address. That includes all the bills. Take a breath with me. I contacted my daughter and told her what is happening with what she did. Of course she apologized and said she would get it reversed. I was hoping it would happen shortly after speaking with her. It has been two months and she has finally gotten it reversed. Now we are waiting for oour mail to come back to us. I know breath. I’m so thankful that we have the people working at our post office that we do. We had ordered stuff online, and they have been great in getting them to us. Especially since they are Christmas gifts. Unfortunately our bills are still not getting here.

She is supposed to be mailing us our mail, redundant, yes. We live about an hour away from each other, but she has no vehicle. Since she is the one who made the mistake it is her that has to fix it. I know it sounds crude, but that is the way it is.Children must learn from their mistakes even if the parents are the ones to suffer for it as well.

That’s it for now. Until Next Time!

Love and Cherish the Children

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I read an article today that I wish I hadn’t.  “Baby Dies After Being Left in Vehicle”.  I saw this and was completely outraged.  How can anyone forget their child in a vehicle in Arizona when it’s over 100 degrees out.  The child was left in the vehicle for 5 hours after the father got home at 10:30am.  She was only 2 1/2 months old.  She didn’t even begin to live a full life. 

I understand parents come home, their tired, they forget things.  I forget things, never my child, but I do forget things.  Even if forgotten for a short period of time (5 minutes), I would be wondering where is my child and why is it so quiet.  I would be running out to my car and running all over the house searching.   I know it’s hard for single parents, but to leave a child out in the Arizona heat for such a long time?  I don’t understand it.  Something similar happened a few years ago.  A young woman was going to work and left her 5 month old daughter in the vehicle.  She said she forgot she was back there.  Again, this happened during the summer and Arizona gets up to at least 115 degrees.

My youngest daughter is 7 years old not once have I ever forgotten that she was in the car/van.  When I call her and she doesn’t answer, I run through the house like a maniac searching for her.  When I do find her (which doesn’t take long), I ask, “Why didn’t you answer me?”.  Common reply, “I didn’t hear you (because she was watching tv in her room and not paying attention)”. She has learned to make sure to answer me so I don’t freak out.

You are probably wondering, why the freak out.  One, she could have gotten outside somehow, which would be extremely hard since she would have to pass by me to get out. Also the house is like Fort Knox extremely hard to get in or out when you’re 3 1/2 feet tall.   Not even my oldest daughter could do it without me noticing she wasn’t in the house, she’s tried.  Two, something could have happened to her while she was upstairs.  Yes, I know, I’m paranoid.  I would rather be paranoid than have something happen to my child and me not know about it immediately.

All in all, be mindful of your children.  They depend on you to take care of them.  Love and cherish them.


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I don’t normally share the things my friends email me, but sometimes, just sometimes it’s worth sharing.  

Cup of Tea

One day my mother was out and my dad was in charge of me. 

I was maybe 2 1/2 years old.. Someone had given me a little ‘tea set’ as a gift and it was one of my favorite toys. 

Daddy was in the living room engrossed in the evening news when I brought Daddy a little cup of ‘tea’,
which was just water.
After several cups of tea and lots of praise
for such yummy tea, my Mom came home. 

My Dad made her wait in the living room
to watch me bring him a cup of
tea, because it was ‘just the cutest thing!’
My Mom waited, and sure enough,
here I come down the hall
with a cup of tea for Daddy and she
watches him drink it up. 

Then she says, (as only a mother would know…) 

‘Did it ever occur to you that the only place she can reach to get water is the toilet?’Be wary of what your toddler brings you to drink or eat. 😉

My Mood Maker

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I was working on my computer last night, trying to get things done for school today.  My goal was to completely finish my course.  My 7-year-old daughter is playing away and she starts talking to me.  Unfortunately I was only half listening to what she was saying and I felt bad about it.  I decided to put the laptop aside for a bit and rest my brain to see what my daughter has to say, and to make sure she finished all her nightly duties.  You know, brushing teeth, washing face, changing to jammies (which she usually does as soon as she gets home, so not a problem there).  Not to forget the constant, “Are you done playing with that? Please, put it away if you are”.

I’m watching her play and she’s talking about her friends at school while playing.  Then she looks up and asks, “Wanna see how fast I can blink my eyes?”.  I said, “Sure”. She starts blinking her eyes really fast, it was so cute.  Then for some reason the blinking was attached to some unknown force that made her tilt her head forward.  The more she blinked, the more her head would tilt.  I’m watching her in amazement, and wondering how long is she going to keep this up.  Just as that thought passed, she hits her head on the edge of the mattress.  Of course, being the person that I am, I laughed hysterically.  It was so funny.  She started laughing too.  I told her that she makes me laugh.

She made my mood just a little better.  Correction, she makes my mood better.

Holes First

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I was remembering one of my oldest daughter’s move outs.  She was 18 at the time and moving from a two bedroom apt with a roomie to a studio unit without a roomie.  This was good for her because she liked her privacy.  This was a time so long ago when I could actually lift heavy objects and carry them without much trouble.

As I’m moving boxes around and the kitties (she had 3) were scrambling to get away from me I found an interesting box.  It had “holes first, kittens last” written on it in pen.  I stared at the box a moment thinking, why would she put that on a box?  She didn’t really need a reminder, did she?

I waited until she came back from dropping a load in the van and asked her about the box. She said that she didn’t want to forget to put holes in the box first before putting the kittens in.  As opposed to trying to put holes in it while the kitties were in there?

There must’ve been this look of complete shock on my face.  I did not know how to respond to that.  I surely thought that she, a very smart person (though forgetful), would not need to remind herself that she needs to put holes in the box before putting the kitties in.  I was more shocked to think that she would even think about trying to put holes in the box while kitties were in it.

No kitties were harmed in this move.  The kitties miraculously survived the move. She had to give up the Siamese brothers to another home later on.  She still has the temperamental evil cat, Batman.  You’ll hear about him later.

Look Mommy!

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My daughter runs up to me yesterday (12/12) and goes “look what I can do?”. I look over and she has a bloody tissue in her hand and her tooth is hanging by a thread. She just looks at me and starts wiggling the hell out of it. I’m looking at her like what the heck just pull it out! Quit playing with it!

Luckily my husband chased her down and he pulled the tooth out. He said it was rather easy.

Now if they would all come out like that without a fuss that would be great.

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